Coming of Age Story Ideas

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Thirteen, saving for something nobody else knows about, the year a baby took over the household. It is the season of the first quarrel with a parent that is not about rules. A mechanic who makes them name every part changes how they see it. What it costs: the pride of never having asked for help. Last image: a tree house rope ladder pulled up for the winter.

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  • Whothirteen, saving for something nobody else knows about
  • Whenthe year a baby took over the household
  • The firstquarrel with a parent that is not about rules
  • Who changes ita mechanic who makes them name every part
  • What it coststhe pride of never having asked for help
  • Last imagea tree house rope ladder pulled up for the winter
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    Who: all 72 people

    Friendship 12

    • eleven, the one who always walks home alone by choice
    • fifteen, captain of a team that has stopped listening
    • fifteen, suddenly better at a friend's best thing
    • fourteen, with one friend and no need of a second
    • nineteen, first of the old group to come back for a visit
    • seventeen, the planner of every outing so far
    • sixteen, the one who remembers everybody's birthday
    • thirteen, newly the odd one out in a group of three
    • thirteen, the only one not invited, and aware of it
    • thirty, still in the town the others left
    • twelve, and the quieter half of a pair of best friends
    • twelve, half of a friendship carried on by letter

    Family 12

    • eleven, the family translator at every appointment
    • fifteen, the sibling who referees the other two
    • forty, a parent learning to be the one left at the gate
    • fourteen, with a stepsibling as of this spring
    • oldest of five, cook of most weeknight dinners
    • only child in a house run by calendars
    • seventeen, about to be the first in the family to graduate
    • sixteen, on call for a grandparent most afternoons
    • thirteen, raised mostly by an older sister
    • twelve, a twin just put in a different class
    • twenty-two, back home after a first year alone
    • youngest of four, used to hand-me-down everything

    Work and money 12

    • eighteen, in a first real job in a second-choice town
    • fifteen, a farm kid trusted with the tractor this year
    • fifteen, behind the counter of the family shop each weekend
    • fourteen, the unpaid helper at an uncle's garage
    • fourteen, with a first paper route and a used bicycle
    • seventeen, an apprentice already better than the teacher
    • sixteen, a dishwasher who wants to cook
    • sixteen, the youngest hand on a fishing boat
    • thirteen, saving for something nobody else knows about
    • thirty-five, an apprentice again after a career that ended
    • twelve, owner of a lawn-mowing business with one customer
    • twenty-five, let go from a first job and telling nobody yet

    Moving and leaving 12

    • eleven, newest face in a two-room school
    • fifteen, a city kid now on a farm road with one bus a day
    • fifteen, back in a hometown that has moved on
    • forty, beginning again in an unfamiliar town
    • fourteen, just arrived and fluent in the wrong language
    • seventeen, packing for a place seen only in photographs
    • sixteen, counting weeks until a school far away
    • ten going on eleven, with everything still in boxes
    • thirteen, staying put while everyone else seems to leave
    • twelve, in the third town in three years
    • twelve, sharing a room for the first time in a new house
    • twenty, home for the summer and a guest in the old room

    Belonging 12

    • eleven, always chosen last and tired of minding
    • fifteen, between two friend groups and claimed by neither
    • fifteen, the scholarship pupil at the school up the hill
    • fourteen, a late joiner of a club with its own language
    • fourteen, good at a sport the school does not have
    • nineteen, a first-year who has not yet spoken in class
    • seventeen, about to quit the thing everyone admires
    • sixteen, a valley kid among classmates from the town
    • thirteen, the only one in the family who cannot sing
    • thirteen, the only reader in a house without books
    • twelve, new to a team that has played together for years
    • twenty-eight, newest and oldest member of a night class

    Endings and letting go 12

    • eighteen, the last of the siblings to leave the house
    • eleven, moving up from the small school to the big one
    • fifteen, in a band whose drummer has just quit
    • forty-five, helping a parent move out of the family house
    • fourteen, goalkeeper for a club about to fold
    • fourteen, outgrowing a tree house built at seven
    • seventeen, in the last summer before everyone scatters
    • sixteen, too tall now for a pony raised from a foal
    • sixteen, watching the family shop put up a closing sign
    • thirteen, last kid on the street still playing outside
    • thirteen, whose favorite teacher is retiring
    • twelve, in the last year before the village school closes
    How this list was compiled

    Each entry is one person named by age or situation, never by looks, with no article in front. Most are 11 to 18; about one in six is older, for a story of personal discovery later in life. Original list written for Draw This Next on 2026-10-03. The six headings (friendship, family, work and money, moving and leaving, belonging, endings and letting go) are shared by all six lists of the page. Every entry was made up for this list. No list has romance, drink, drugs or self-harm, and no entry is about a death: the endings are closings, departures and things outgrown. No novel, film or author is named or copied. What a coming-of-age story is (a story about a main character growing up from child to adult, tends to emphasize dialogue or inner thought over action, and typically has a teenager at its center) was read on 2026-10-03 in the article Coming-of-age story of the English Wikipedia, and the word bildungsroman (from the German for formation or education, and novel; one kind of coming-of-age story) in the article Bildungsroman (en.wikipedia.org; text free to reuse under CC BY-SA 4.0). Licence: own work

    When: all 72 settings

    Friendship 12

    • the autumn of the shared locker
    • the autumn the bus route changed
    • the last warm week before school
    • the school year the lunch tables were rearranged
    • the spring of the bicycle races down mill hill
    • the spring the fort in the woods was found
    • the summer of the borrowed tent
    • the summer the fair came and stayed a month
    • the summer the pool stayed shut
    • the week the millpond froze thick enough to skate
    • the winter school kept closing for snow
    • the winter the rink was flooded behind the hall

    Family 12

    • the autumn a grandparent moved into the back room
    • the holidays spent at two different tables
    • the spring a one-eared cat moved in uninvited
    • the spring the kitchen was repainted yellow
    • the summer of six cousins and one bathroom
    • the summer of the long drive to see relatives
    • the summer the garden was dug up and replanted
    • the week the power was out and stories were told
    • the winter of the borrowed car
    • the winter the furnace broke and everyone shared one room
    • the year a baby took over the household
    • the year dinner moved from six o'clock to eight

    Work and money 12

    • the autumn the orchard paid by the basket
    • the harvest when the hired hands did not come
    • the long holiday behind a market stall
    • the season the boats went out before dawn
    • the spring of the roadside vegetable stand
    • the spring the bakery let the apprentice run the ovens
    • the summer of mowing every lawn on the street
    • the summer of the first real paycheck
    • the summer the diner needed someone at five in the morning
    • the winter of shoveling driveways for coins
    • the winter the shop stayed open late
    • the year the garage got its first electric car

    Moving and leaving 12

    • the autumn in a house that still smelled of paint
    • the autumn of the for-sale sign on the lawn
    • the first week at a school with a different accent
    • the first winter in the new town
    • the last month on the old street
    • the long drive north with the windows down
    • the spring the boxes were finally unpacked
    • the summer between two schools
    • the summer of the moving truck
    • the summer the train line reached the town
    • the winter in a rented house by the station
    • the year the mail kept being forwarded

    Belonging 12

    • the autumn blazers became compulsory
    • the autumn of the science fair
    • the festival week, with tents on every lawn
    • the first season on the second team
    • the season of tryouts
    • the semester of the wrong class schedule
    • the spring the choir needed one more voice
    • the summer at a camp where everyone knew the songs
    • the summer the skate park opened
    • the winter of rehearsals in the gym
    • the winter the youth club lost its room
    • the year of learning a new set of streets

    Endings and letting go 12

    • the autumn the school bell was replaced by a buzzer
    • the closing season for the town's ball club
    • the farewell summer of the drive-in movie lot
    • the last year of the one-room library
    • the spring the big elm came down in a storm
    • the spring the old bridge was taken down
    • the summer the ferry stopped running
    • the summer the orchard was sold
    • the week the playground was fenced off
    • the winter the cinema showed its last film
    • the year the corner store closed
    • the year the fairground did not come back
    How this list was compiled

    Each entry is a season tied to a place or an event, so it reads after the person and a comma. Original list written for Draw This Next on 2026-10-03. The six headings (friendship, family, work and money, moving and leaving, belonging, endings and letting go) are shared by all six lists of the page. Every entry was made up for this list. No list has romance, drink, drugs or self-harm, and no entry is about a death: the endings are closings, departures and things outgrown. No novel, film or author is named or copied. What a coming-of-age story is (a story about a main character growing up from child to adult, tends to emphasize dialogue or inner thought over action, and typically has a teenager at its center) was read on 2026-10-03 in the article Coming-of-age story of the English Wikipedia, and the word bildungsroman (from the German for formation or education, and novel; one kind of coming-of-age story) in the article Bildungsroman (en.wikipedia.org; text free to reuse under CC BY-SA 4.0). Licence: own work

    The first: all 72 firsts

    Friendship 12

    • apology that is actually meant
    • birthday party heard about afterward
    • confidence held for a friend at real cost
    • dare refused out loud
    • friend from a different street entirely
    • friendship with a neighbor of a grandparent's age
    • plain truth heard from a friend
    • promise that proves hard to keep
    • real argument with a best friend
    • sleepover that goes wrong and then right
    • stand taken with a friend against the whole group
    • trip to town with no adult along

    Family 12

    • bus fare handed over with no instructions
    • errand done as the family's spokesperson
    • evening left in charge of the house
    • glimpse of a parent as a person
    • grown-up conversation overheard from the stairs
    • holiday spent under another roof
    • night away at a relative's farm
    • photograph found of a parent at the same age
    • plea for help from a younger child
    • quarrel with a parent that is not about rules
    • request for advice from an adult
    • supper cooked for everyone at the table

    Work and money 12

    • boss who is fair and impossible to please
    • day of being called sir or ma'am
    • early shift, before the streetlights go out
    • error that comes out of another worker's wages
    • job, and the uniform that comes with it
    • offer of more hours than school allows
    • paycheck, counted twice
    • resignation handed in for a good reason
    • scolding from a customer
    • skill that turns out to be useful to strangers
    • tool bought with earned money
    • trainee of their own to show the ropes

    Moving and leaving 12

    • friend made by accident in a strange town
    • goodbye said on purpose, in person
    • hesitation when a form asks for a home address
    • latchkey on a string around the neck
    • letter back to the old street
    • map drawn of an unfamiliar neighborhood
    • night in a room with nothing on the walls
    • solo journey with two changes of train
    • visit back, to find the old place smaller
    • walk alone to an unfamiliar school
    • week of being the one with the accent
    • winter colder than any they have known

    Belonging 12

    • account of events that is believed
    • compliment from a customer who does not know them
    • decision to leave a group on purpose
    • invitation with no strings attached
    • nickname that is not unkind
    • place on a list posted in a corridor
    • refusal to laugh along
    • selection for anything at all
    • sentence in a new language spoken without thinking
    • speech in front of a full room
    • team, joined late
    • uniform that fits

    Endings and letting go 12

    • closing of something beloved, for good
    • departure where they are the one leaving
    • farewell to a teacher who mattered
    • final bell at a school they will not return to
    • friendship that fades without a fight
    • hand-me-down given instead of received
    • hideout that has become too small to sit in
    • keepsake chosen deliberately
    • realization that a summer will not repeat
    • return to a place that has been repainted
    • tradition skipped without anyone objecting
    • year of being the oldest in the building
    How this list was compiled

    Each entry is a first, written without the word itself, so it reads after "It is the season of the first". Original list written for Draw This Next on 2026-10-03. The six headings (friendship, family, work and money, moving and leaving, belonging, endings and letting go) are shared by all six lists of the page. Every entry was made up for this list. No list has romance, drink, drugs or self-harm, and no entry is about a death: the endings are closings, departures and things outgrown. No novel, film or author is named or copied. What a coming-of-age story is (a story about a main character growing up from child to adult, tends to emphasize dialogue or inner thought over action, and typically has a teenager at its center) was read on 2026-10-03 in the article Coming-of-age story of the English Wikipedia, and the word bildungsroman (from the German for formation or education, and novel; one kind of coming-of-age story) in the article Bildungsroman (en.wikipedia.org; text free to reuse under CC BY-SA 4.0). Licence: own work

    Who changes it: all 72 other people

    Friendship 12

    • a best friend's grandmother with very sharp eyes
    • a bus driver who knows every child's stop
    • a distant friend whose letters pull no punches
    • a former friend who says sorry first
    • a friend's older cousin who repairs radios
    • a neighbor's child, three years younger, who tags along
    • a newcomer who says aloud what everyone has stopped seeing
    • a pen pal met in person for a single hour
    • a quiet kid who has been watching the whole time
    • a rival who turns out to like the same book
    • a team captain who confesses to nerves
    • a transfer student unimpressed by the whole grade

    Family 12

    • a baby in the house who cannot be reasoned with
    • a cousin from the city with different rules
    • a foster child who arrives with one bag
    • a grandfather who opens up only at the workbench
    • a grandmother who hands over a recipe at last
    • a great-aunt who remembers the family before the move
    • a much older cousin back in town for one weekend
    • a parent who, for once, wants their opinion
    • a parent's old friend who tells the other version
    • a stepparent who does not try too hard
    • an uncle who failed at something and says so
    • an unmentioned aunt on a week's visit

    Work and money 12

    • a boss's child who does the same job for nothing
    • a competing delivery kid who is done by six
    • a cook who lets them ruin one batch and learn
    • a coworker twice their age who is starting over
    • a customer who complains and then comes back
    • a farmhand who reads the sky better than print
    • a mechanic who makes them name every part
    • a regular customer who tips in advice
    • a retired worker who still turns up to watch
    • a shift supervisor who corrects in a whisper
    • a shop owner who trusts them with the till
    • an itinerant knife sharpener with a story for every town

    Moving and leaving 12

    • a child next door who asks blunt questions
    • a classmate reluctantly assigned to show them around
    • a grocer who stocks one thing from back home
    • a kid on the same bus who also just arrived
    • a landlady with a handwritten list of local customs
    • a librarian who orders in a book from back home
    • a mail carrier who learns the new name first
    • a moving-truck driver who has done this a thousand times
    • a neighbor who brings bread on the first day
    • a stranger on a platform who gives one piece of advice
    • a teacher who mispronounces the name and then asks
    • an old friend who visits and does not fit here

    Belonging 12

    • a camp counselor who cannot swim either
    • a choir director who moves them to the front row
    • a club's oldest member who also started late
    • a coach who picks them for a reason nobody guesses
    • a janitor who knows which doors are never locked
    • a newcomer even newer than they are
    • a popular kid who is kind when nobody is looking
    • a referee who makes a fair call against the home side
    • a rival school's player who shakes hands and means it
    • a stage manager who hands over the cue book
    • a teacher who reads their essay aloud without the name
    • a teammate who passes when it would be easier not to

    Endings and letting go 12

    • a bandmate who quits kindly
    • a caretaker who walks the building with the keys
    • a ferry captain on the last crossing
    • a graduating senior who hands down a locker combination
    • a groundskeeper who marks the field one more time
    • a local historian taking notes on every doorway
    • a neighbor moving out who leaves a box at the door
    • a new owner who keeps the old sign
    • a projectionist who lets them thread the final reel
    • a retiring teacher who gives away the classroom books
    • a shopkeeper selling off the last of the stock
    • a younger child who inherits the tree house
    How this list was compiled

    Each entry is a second person, with its own article, so it stands in front of "changes how they see it". Original list written for Draw This Next on 2026-10-03. The six headings (friendship, family, work and money, moving and leaving, belonging, endings and letting go) are shared by all six lists of the page. Every entry was made up for this list. No list has romance, drink, drugs or self-harm, and no entry is about a death: the endings are closings, departures and things outgrown. No novel, film or author is named or copied. What a coming-of-age story is (a story about a main character growing up from child to adult, tends to emphasize dialogue or inner thought over action, and typically has a teenager at its center) was read on 2026-10-03 in the article Coming-of-age story of the English Wikipedia, and the word bildungsroman (from the German for formation or education, and novel; one kind of coming-of-age story) in the article Bildungsroman (en.wikipedia.org; text free to reuse under CC BY-SA 4.0). Licence: own work

    What it costs: all 72 costs

    Friendship 12

    • a friendship that used to be easy
    • a nickname that one friend alone ever said
    • a running gag that only worked for two
    • a secret handshake nobody uses any more
    • a shared hiding place, now known to others
    • a standing invitation to the usual table
    • an afternoon ritual of walking home together
    • being the one everybody confides in
    • the belief that best friends are forever by default
    • the comfort of never picking a side
    • the easy silence between two people
    • the right to be surprised by a friend

    Family 12

    • a bedroom to themselves
    • a family story they can no longer tell the old way
    • a place at the children's table
    • a resentment worn in like an old shoe
    • a version of home that existed only in childhood
    • an unquestioned bedtime and everything it stood for
    • being the one nobody expects much of yet
    • the certainty of being told what happens next
    • free evenings, traded for responsibility
    • the habit of blaming whoever is nearest
    • the idea that parents always know what to do
    • the privilege of not knowing about money

    Work and money 12

    • a boss's good opinion, briefly
    • a clean pair of hands
    • a different future, privately rehearsed
    • a friendship with someone who did not get the job
    • a place on the team that practices after school
    • the first week's wages, spent making it right
    • the idea that hard work is always noticed
    • the luxury of not being responsible
    • the pleasure of spending without counting
    • the pride of never having asked for help
    • sleeping late, permanently
    • three months of unclaimed afternoons

    Moving and leaving 12

    • a best friend within walking distance
    • a first language spoken only at home now
    • a garden tree climbed on every birthday
    • a hometown team to cheer for without thinking
    • a reputation, good or bad, left behind
    • a town where shopkeepers knew them by name
    • an accent, sanded down
    • the bike routes of an entire childhood
    • certainty about whose porch is a safe one
    • the comfort of knowing every shortcut
    • the familiar rooftops outside one window
    • the unpacked box that will stay unpacked

    Belonging 12

    • a private hobby, now public
    • a seat beside the one person they knew
    • a talent given up to make room for another
    • an old group of friends who do not understand
    • an opinion they can no longer keep to themselves
    • the easy excuse of never having tried
    • the liberty of letting nobody down
    • the peace of never being asked first
    • the right to stop in the middle and go home
    • the shelter of the back row
    • top rank in a very small pond
    • weekends, now owed to a team

    Endings and letting go 12

    • a path across a meadow, fenced off since
    • a place that held every earlier summer
    • a ritual that needs a building to happen in
    • a silent vow that returning would be easy
    • a team color they will never wear again
    • a tradition nobody thought to write down
    • the belief that favorite things stay open
    • the corner everyone used to meet at
    • the keys to a place that no longer has a door
    • knowing every face at the counter
    • the last link to a younger self
    • the sound that used to mean school was out
    How this list was compiled

    Each entry is something given up, with its own article, so it reads after "What it costs:" beside any other row. Original list written for Draw This Next on 2026-10-03. The six headings (friendship, family, work and money, moving and leaving, belonging, endings and letting go) are shared by all six lists of the page. Every entry was made up for this list. No list has romance, drink, drugs or self-harm, and no entry is about a death: the endings are closings, departures and things outgrown. No novel, film or author is named or copied. What a coming-of-age story is (a story about a main character growing up from child to adult, tends to emphasize dialogue or inner thought over action, and typically has a teenager at its center) was read on 2026-10-03 in the article Coming-of-age story of the English Wikipedia, and the word bildungsroman (from the German for formation or education, and novel; one kind of coming-of-age story) in the article Bildungsroman (en.wikipedia.org; text free to reuse under CC BY-SA 4.0). Licence: own work

    Last image: all 72 last images

    Friendship 12

    • a cafeteria bench with room made at the end
    • a fort in the woods with one new plank
    • a friendship bracelet retied on the other wrist
    • a lamp in a front window, lit for someone else's child
    • a note folded small and left in a coat pocket
    • a river stone skipped six times, counted aloud
    • a shared umbrella, handed over for good
    • a swing set with one seat gently rocking
    • a tin-can telephone, its string wound up neatly
    • a wave from across a schoolyard, returned
    • two bicycles leaning on different fences
    • two long shadows that part at a corner

    Family 12

    • a car pulling out with a different driver
    • a chair moved up to the grown-ups' table
    • a duffel emptied into half a dresser
    • a family photograph with one person newly in the middle
    • a kitchen light on before anyone else is awake
    • a parent dozing on the sofa, shoes still on
    • a pencil line on the pantry wall, dated
    • a recipe copied out in careful block capitals
    • a set of house keys on a new hook
    • an armchair angled to face the garden
    • an outgrown jacket on a smaller pair of shoulders
    • dishes drying in a rack, done without being asked

    Work and money 12

    • a bicycle basket empty after the final delivery
    • a callus examined under a lamp
    • a first paycheck stub pinned above a desk
    • a jar of coins emptied onto a counter
    • a mended engine turning over at dusk
    • a moored skiff made fast with a beginner's hitch
    • a name stitched over a pocket
    • a shop sign turned to closed by a new hand
    • a time card punched for the last shift of summer
    • an apron hung on the highest hook
    • flour on a sleeve, not brushed off
    • muddy work boots lined up on newspaper

    Moving and leaving 12

    • a box labeled in a previous handwriting
    • a bus pulling away with a face at the back window
    • a different tree, marked with this year's height
    • a doormat with someone else's faded welcome
    • a front door on the latch, as neighbors do here
    • a house number taken down and kept
    • a letter mailed to the old address by mistake
    • a new key on an old key ring
    • a street map with one route inked in
    • a train window with a town sliding out of it
    • curtains finally hung in the new room
    • the old house seen once, from a passing car

    Belonging 12

    • a bench in a changing room with a name taped to it
    • a chorus where one voice is no longer careful
    • a club badge pinned on crooked
    • a door held open without being asked
    • a hand raised without checking who else has
    • a jersey with a number, folded on a bed
    • a locker door covered in other people's handwriting
    • a name called from a list, and a step forward
    • a seat saved by somebody else
    • a spot in a team photograph, back row, grinning
    • a spotlight viewed from behind the curtain
    • a trophy shelf with a small space cleared

    Endings and letting go 12

    • a bell kept on a shelf, never rung
    • a ferry tied up with its lights off
    • a field with the lines still faintly white
    • a hallway going dark behind the final person out
    • a screen going dark over an empty parking lot
    • a set of keys handed across a threshold
    • a shop counter worn smooth in two places
    • a street seen from the back seat, getting smaller
    • a thank-you notice taped inside a shop window
    • a tree house rope ladder pulled up for the winter
    • classroom chairs upended on the tables
    • the last ticket stub, kept in a wallet
    How this list was compiled

    Each entry is one picture to end on, with its own nouns, so it reads after "Last image:" whatever the other rows dealt. Original list written for Draw This Next on 2026-10-03. The six headings (friendship, family, work and money, moving and leaving, belonging, endings and letting go) are shared by all six lists of the page. Every entry was made up for this list. No list has romance, drink, drugs or self-harm, and no entry is about a death: the endings are closings, departures and things outgrown. No novel, film or author is named or copied. What a coming-of-age story is (a story about a main character growing up from child to adult, tends to emphasize dialogue or inner thought over action, and typically has a teenager at its center) was read on 2026-10-03 in the article Coming-of-age story of the English Wikipedia, and the word bildungsroman (from the German for formation or education, and novel; one kind of coming-of-age story) in the article Bildungsroman (en.wikipedia.org; text free to reuse under CC BY-SA 4.0). Licence: own work

    How it works

    These coming of age story ideas deal the turn from child to adult in six parts: sixteen, a dishwasher who wants to cook, the autumn the orchard paid by the basket, and the first scolding from a customer.

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    What a coming-of-age story needs

    A coming-of-age story follows a character's growth from childhood toward adulthood, and usually turns on a change of feeling more than on action. So each result names a first, a second person who changes how it looks, and what it costs. Keep the person and the first, then change the cost until it matters.

    Six kinds of growing up, mixed

    Each list below is sorted under friendship, family, work and money, moving and leaving, belonging, and endings and letting go. The tool mixes all six and cannot filter. The endings are closings and departures; no entry is about a death, and no list has a romance.

    • Write the last image first, then work out what would have to happen for it to feel earned.
    • The second person rarely means to teach anything. Let them be busy with their own day.

    Questions and answers

    What is a coming-of-age story?

    A story about a character growing from childhood toward adulthood. Such stories tend to favor dialogue and inner thought over action, and the lead is typically a teenager. The German term for one kind, a novel of formation, is bildungsroman.

    Do these work as personal discovery story ideas for an adult character?

    Yes. About one person in six on the Who list is past eighteen: back home after a first year alone, let go from a first job, beginning again at forty. Change a part that does not fit the age.

    Does a coming-of-age story have to be sad?

    No. Something is always given up, but the cost can be small: sleeping late, a place at the children's table, a private hobby. Many of the last images here are gains, such as a seat saved by somebody else.

    How old should the main character be?

    Most leads here are eleven to eighteen, since the subjects of such stories are typically teenagers, and each is named by age or situation, never by looks. Lock the rest and change Who to try the same first at a different age.